I Want To Punish My Spouse.  Will You Help Me?

No.

I will help you communicate with your spouse and have compassion for him or her.  I will help you protect your kids.  I will help you grow as a human being, and be safe through the divorce process.  I will help you be the sort of person you want to be on your best days.  I will help you make the best of your financial situation, grim though it may be.  Those are things worth your efforts, and mine.